Racism in gay dating
That’s fine and to make you feel more heard I’ll even repeat the most common point used to counter my argument ― “but people like what they like.Can’t change that.” I’ve heard that excuse, or some iteration of it, used many times.Before I begin, I want you to understand that I’m not calling all of you racist.I’ve never been one to throw that word around casually and even though I’m sure there are some that word would fit like a glove, I’m not talking to them.Jack’d called the problem “rampant.” reached out for comment from Grindr, and its vice president of marketing, Peter Sloterdyk, said "sexual racism is a larger problem within our community and impacts all dating apps, not just Grindr." Grindr, he said, does "prohibit the use of offensive or racist language and encourage our community to report offending profiles through our app's built-in system." A negative report could lead to either censorship of a profile or a ban, he said.Alon Rivel, director of global marketing at Jack’d, said in the news release that Jack’d has a “zero-tolerance” policy for racism, inviting users to report discrimination to customer service.Grindr isn’t the only dating app that includes profiles called racist, but Rivel notes that Grindr, “whether we like it or not, is the leader in the gay dating app space and they set a tone for the rest of the gay community.” “Grindr has been highlighted in the press repeatedly as being racist and only profiling men who fit one standard of beauty,” Rivel told warned, “Here's One Brutal Truth Every White Gay Man Needs to Hear” and wrote about Grindr as a place where “gay men brandish their racial dating preferences” with “unapologetic bravado.” Those are just two examples among many.The website Douche Bagsof catalogs a number of racist examples.
Fetishizing me is not a compliment, it’s propping up harmful sexual stereotypes and, it too, is racist. Think of it like learning a new language, better still, think of it like unlearning a racist one.
Therefore, our desire to date within our own race, when we choose to, is not rooted in any assertion made by society that we’re better than anyone else.
I know this is a lot to digest so I’ll just boil it down to this: if your preference for a partner supports an existing racial hierarchy which marginalizes minorities, then your preferences are racist. If you’re making of your dating decisions with a person’s race in mind, that’s racist.
Jack'd is part of the company Online Buddies, which reports it has 22 full-time employees, of which nine are people of color.
Among its five-person executive management team, two are people of color.